I'm going to charitably assume this is the product of ignorance, and so will lay out what I, and I suspect most people mean, when they offer "thoughts and prayers" in the wake of a disaster so that it the author of this game and all those who approved it can devote themselves to more productive pursuits than mocking something nobody's saying.I made a game where you try to stop mass shootings with your thoughts and prayers. It's a little challenging. https://t.co/lBjPNYF0mM— Mike Lacher (@mikelacher) June 17, 2016
Offering "thoughts and prayers" in the immediate aftermath of a tragedy is a way for someone outside of a situation to acknowledge that those close to it are shouldering an emotional burden that can be unbearable, and offering to take some of it.
For me, this includes:
- Praying for the repose of the souls of those who have died.
- Praying for the recovery of those who are injured.
- Praying for comfort for those close to those killed or injured.
- Thanksgiving for the work of those helping the victims.
This is not a statement that this should represent the beginning and end of the response, or that it alone will prevent future similar incidents. But it is something right and proper to do, and the type of thing I think we need more of rather than less of, even if we do need more of other types of responses.
Cleaning up the crime scene does nothing to prevent future killings. But it must be done, and to mock it because it does nothing to prevent future shootings is silly at best and ugly and mean-spirited at worst.
Now, ideally, these prayers should include an examination of conscience that addresses questions like:
- Is there some action I can be taking now to comfort those who are suffering from this?
- Am I somehow complicit in this, through some direct action, through my participation in structures of violence, or my inaction in not doing things that can prevent this?
I can't guarantee that this examination will lead to conclusions that those mocking "thoughts and prayers" would prefer.
But I can guarantee that they will never reach those conclusions if they cut off their own thoughts and prayers because they've been told how useless they are.
The response to mocking "thoughts and prayers" will not be more action; it will be less thought and less prayers. And more entrenchment in what people thought to begin with.
Mock "thoughts and prayers" if you wish. But don't pretend it's helping.